I think the ladies were more drawn to the "diamond in the rough." The hard exterior with the soft inside. The scowling face with the heart of gold on the inside.
I wonder-could the ladies have been trying a more complex character, whereas Dickens' were more straightforward? It's been forever since I've read a Dickens novel. I don't remember anymore! Now I want to reread one!
I personally agree with the softer, gentler type of man. Darcy and Mr. Rochester are alright, but Tilney and Wentworth are my favorites (though I do have a soft spot for Thornton, who was a bit more genteel in the book).
Excellent food for thought!